Your friend popped the question! Being asked to be a bridesmaid is a huge honor and tons of fun–the parties, the dresses, being surrounded by friends… It’s all so exciting. But between sipping champagne and diving for a bouquet, you’ll have some responsibilities to complete.
Here’s a list to help you make sure you’re meeting all of your expectations as a bridesmaid.
Before the Wedding
Get your party on
As a bridesmaid, one of your responsibilities is to attend all of the pre-wedding parties you can (doesn’t sound too shabby right?). But after the engagement party, bachelorette party, a few bridal showers and the rehearsal dinner, you’re probably running low on free time and money. The upside is that the more parties you hit up, the better you get to know the rest of the wedding party and the more fun you’ll have on the big day! Embrace these special times because it means a lot to the couple that you’re there!
Spread the word
Congratulate your bestie and her beau on Facebook and let people know you’re honored to be a part of their wedding day. People will likely go to you with questions so have answers to things like the wedding date and time, what stores they’re registered with and anything else people will need to know about.
If you live near the bride, you can offer to help with trips to the florist, wedding planner or craft store. If she invites you, try to be there when the bride is shopping for her wedding dress. If you’re nearby, you can also go shopping for bridesmaid dresses with her! If not, find your bridesmaid dresses online that align to her specific vision.
Skype, FaceTime or a telephone call lets your friend know you’re there to help. Offer to lick envelopes or create name cards. Even if you live far away, there are tasks you can complete to ease her stress. Plus, she’ll appreciate an open ear to vent her frustrations to.
On the Wedding Day
Look your best
The bride might also want you to get your hair, nails and makeup done. If its too expensive, look into ways that you can do some of these yourself. Sometimes a bride will cover it, and other times it’s up to you. This is her vision, so even if you don’t love sporting an updo, you just have to go with the flow. Don’t forget about shoes and jewelry either! Just be sure to ask the bride what she wants.
Channel your inner Olivia Pope
This day is all about the couple, so part of your responsibility is to fix any problems that may arise. Botched flowers, lost tie, drunk best man, see if you can solve it without involving the bride. Keep this day as seamless as possible for her, she’s been dreaming of it for her entire life. You know she’d do the same for you!
Either pre- or post-ceremony, you’ll take photos with the bridal party. Embrace it. You’ll look beautiful in your Brideside bridesmaid dress and you’ll have awesome professional photos to capture it. Have someone get you a drink at the bar so it’s waiting when you wrap up!
Get your groove on
Doing a grand entrance? You might have to come up with a little dance or scene to do as you walk in. Some favorites include: a classy dip, brushing your shoulders off and swing dancing. Whatever you decide to do, go big or go home. Your energy will help get guests out on the dance floor and keep the party going all night. If you’re dreading the spotlight, keep it simple with a Champagne cheers or a high-five.
Give your bride a lift
If the MOH is MIA, offer to help the bride hold up her dress when she needs a bathroom break. It leads to a lot of laughs even years down the road.
Wrap it up
Help wrap up the party by loading gifts into the car, helping people exit and making sure nothing was left behind. Then it’s finally your turn to kick up your feet and relax.
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